qprs are more than just “romantic relationship with extra steps”, and i think it’s really telling how many times i see alloromantic people saying they’re depicting an aro character in a qpr, not a romantic relationship, but then they never ever make any effort to distinguish the qpr from any other romantic relationship they write or draw. Are you writing a qpr or are you writing a romantic relationship with the serial numbers filed off? Have you talked to aro people or read stuff actually written by us? because, yes, some qprs can look a lot like a romantic relationship from the outside, but that’s just it, you’re looking at it from the outside. Now if you’re reading this and thinking “well i heard aros can be in queerplatonic relationships!” I want you to think for a second. you say stuff like that and all i hear is “my fictional ship is so much more important than representing your marginalized minority identity” so instead of me just sitting here and saying “yes you can totally ship aro characters, as long as you’re respectful!!!” i’m saying “can you stop and think why you want to shove an aro character into a romantic relationship at the first chance you get? maybe you have some arophobia you haven’t worked on? maybe since we live in an amatonormative world, you’re letting that influence your views?” because that question being the first thing out of your mouth when you see a character you like confirmed as aro? that’s already disrespectful towards aros in my book. its a slap to the face and it shows that people really do not give a shit about aros. So when the first question brought up when a character gets canonically confirmed as aro is “okay cool but can i ship them?” or “that’s nice but how can i still write about my fave ship that involves them?” i want to fucking scream. fandom spaces (hell creative spaces in general) are at best not welcoming to aros, and at worst actively hostile towards us. people constantly try to weasel their way out of actually writing aro characters, or they just ignore or deny their identity outright. I can actually count on like one hand how many popular canon aro characters there are, and on the whole, none of their identities are respected. ![]() I want alloros to realize that for a lot of aros, we do not get to see ourselves represented often.
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